The causes of anger


HLI79857FGKJThe causes of anger

To learn how problems arise and how to get rid of, we need to know the causes of anger. These causes can be divided into primary and secondary causes. The primary cause is the ego and the selfish attachment. It can be eradicated through the practice of understanding and realization of emptiness. The secondary cause is frustration, it is a step forward anger.
Frustrations rise when arrives to get what you want and when you get something
you do not want. All this happens because:

All beings are too focused on themselves, they have too much ego.
There is no respect for each other. Everyone believes to be the most important person, and unless there is mutual respect, and we hurt others too.
Dissatisfaction can generate displeasure because we tend to want more when we are dissatisfied.
The impatience we should know that it takes time to show results but we leave halfway. This is a factor that leads us in pain and anger generates.

Antidotes to anger

It is very important to know the causes and effects of a problem to get rid of or reduce the anger associated with it. There are three ways to solve our anger problem:
Analytical meditation
The skillful practice
Cause a positive reaction.

Analytical meditation

Imagine someone who speaks very negatively to annoy you so strongly that you or slander to others. If it makes you unhappy because of anger, you should look into yourself. What grieves you? Is it the sound or the words you hear that make you unhappy? Now imagine someone saying something very negative, but in a foreign language that you do not understand. Or, he says the same words but with a smile, what would you think?
If in our daily life, we can analyze all this in meditation, then we truly practice the dharma. This is a clever way that we should use. Sing can never replace the analytical meditation.
From our analytical meditation we will be able to know that the word is not the cause of our grief and our anger. The reason is, in fact, the commitment we have to the thought that the words we encounter. You think this may be true, and yet, when someone hits you, you get angry because you hurt. You should meditate and ask you questions.
If you get angry when you are wrong, why do not you get angry when you have a headache or toothache? However, it is still physical pain. You can always say that nobody is responsible for your migraine while pain and anger caused by someone malicious.
If this is what you think, check if the person is constantly hitting others, or being verbally aggressive towards them. Maybe he hustles and does not hit everyone, but only a few people. There is probably something that drives him to act thus.
If someone hits you with a stick, ask yourself if you're angry or stick after the person. Usually, we are angry at the person and not the stick, because this is the person who is responsible for the movement of the stick. However, we should know that the person who strikes us is driven by anger. This person does not feel all the time pulse hitting people. For example, when it hit person is happy. If it was not anger that drives him to hit people, he would do so all the time. So why not want to anger this person?
If you know this secret, you will not complain much. Instead, you will feel compassion towards that person because, driven by anger, she creates karma.

Another type of meditation is to think of the corresponding cause. If you're not there, he did not object that hit. So, at least 50% of the problem is you. You are here at the wrong time and the wrong place. If you think this person with anger and hatred, is that it will make you happier? If not, why be angry? In fact, it is harmful because it will create more negative: if you are angry with him, he will in turn be angry with you, etc.. It will be endless.

The skillful practice , to not have the cause of anger

One practice very skillful bodhisattva is one who is practicing as a tree. If someone hits a tree, the tree will not feel anything and will not budge. Similarly, if someone hurts us and we do nothing, it will stop future damage (although we are emotionally involved).
If your unhappiness is caused by jealousy, remember the goal you want to achieve. Is it possible to achieve? If this is impossible, why not drop it and do something else? Why be unhappy because it is not helping? And even adversity will make us even more angry. You should avoid places which cause unnecessary problems. If you know that going to such a place, at such a moment you will have problems, do not go.
It is also important to understand the time factor: is it a good time or not? An example: you make a positive action for others, but you can not aim. You feel frustrated and you wonder if this is the right time. If this is not the case, you should see your action.
Another important way is to never count the number of times you practiced patience.

Generate a positive perception towards all beings
When we are positive towards others, our anger decreases. To put this into practice, we need to do one of the following things when we are angry:

Practice contemplation on the beneficial effects of anger and errors associated with anger.
Understand that what we experience is the result of previous karma and accept it.
Think or understand the nature of all beings is pure because they all have the Buddha nature. They are under the influence of anger and ignorance. We should not get angry after these innocent beings. We should be angry after the three poisons, and after get the cause of anger. 

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